Sunday, July 29, 2007

I Want to Take a Poll Tonight.

Sometimes I think the Engineer was put on earth to make me nuts.

If he has a piece of knowledge that I need, he thinks I know it because he knows it. Does he think I acquire this knowledge by osmosis?

Or he will be talking about one thing and change the subject without letting me know, or pick up a lapsed conversation hours later without any warning, then act like I'm an idiot because I don't understand what he's talking about.

This evening, he was talking about wearing his New Balance "river sneaks" in Idaho on vacation and asked, as he was staring at my new pair and my old pair of New Balance shoes, if I had shoes good for the trip. Then commented he guessed I did since I had a new pair.
I said planned to take the old New Balance, but I didn't want to wear them to wade in the river because I didn't like squishy shoes. He looked at me like I'd just grown a second head and said, "No, I mean flip-flops."

Huh?

I keep reminding him that I am not the Twin, I cannot read his mind, but he keeps assuming I can.

Is this normal spousal behavior, is it Engineer behavior, is it just plain weird, or am I an especially unperceptive wife?

Would you folks out there in the blogosphere who are reading this, please, drop me a comment about communicating with your current or previous spouse or significant other? Any insight or editorial comment or "my partner does such and so" story will be appreciated.

And hopefully enlightening, scurrilous or amusing.

4 comments:

Mihalis said...

"Sometimes I think the Engineer was put on earth to make me nuts."

There really is no answer to that. Lots of mental images but...no I can't...moving swiftly along...

"If he has a piece of knowledge that I need, he thinks I know it because he knows it. Does he think I acquire this knowledge by osmosis?"

Wait. What?...this is the wrong way round...this is what women do to men...sorry but you're not getting away with this one.

Not only do womenfolk think we men should just ~know~ stuff without them telling us but they are also very sneaky when they are wrong. They not only won't admit to being wrong, they will actually say that it was their man who did/said the wrong thing, and that it was they, the woman, who did/said the right thing that the man had really done/said and that they, the woman, was actually right all along. At this point the man's brain will explode as his IQ trickles out of his ear and he will then say "Yes dear," and the woman will nod and look smug, satisfied with a job well done.

If ever a man tries to explain this behavior he is rendered stupid and will write a long nonsensical paragraph on the subject before giving up.

That is the Law. That is how it has always been and always will be!

Wunx~ said...

Ah Mihalis -- Representing the man's point of view, thank you.

I think maybe the difference is women think men should just know emotional stuff and men think women should just know informational stuff.

So it looks like it works both ways. He confuse she, she confuse he and somebody better feed the cat.

P.S. Your other comment fell off when I told it to publish, but I read it. Thanks.

Kate said...

This could be why I'm still single..

Anonymous said...

At least he talks to you.